I'd like my readers to post any help they can give to Melissa. Let me start by offering an exercise I found extremely useful in learning to perceive my own emotional state:
The Body Inventory
Sit down by yourself.
Close your eyes and mentally perform an inventory of your physical state.
Start with the tip of the big toe on your right foot. Is it feeling anything? Quiet? Itchy? Painful? What kind of pain?
Acknowledge the feeling, then move on to the next toe and repeat the process.
Finish your right toes, then do the left. Then do the parts of your feet, then your ankles and up your legs.
Continue the process up your body, inside and out, until you finish at the top of your head.
If you're pressed, the entire process can take as little as one minute, though if you can spare a couple of minutes, that would be better. You can almost always get a couple of minutes. For example, if I'm in a stressful client meeting, I ask for a health break and head for the men's room (in your case, Melissa, the ladies' room). I can hide out in a booth and perform the inventory. When I'm finished, I not only know my physical state (and perhaps something I want to do to improve it), but I usually have some insight into my emotional state and the emotional states of the others in the meeting.
Give it a try.
Any other suggestions?