I was asked, "Am I boring, and what can I do about it?"
The questioner explained, "Everything I have to say seems boring or unimportant. When I talk about my feelings it seems like I'm complaining or too complicated for others to understand. I don't feel like talking to anyone anymore. What should I do?"
I’ve heard this complaint many times, and much of the time, the person’s problem is not talking, but listening.
I advised him to devote some attention to what the others are saying to him and around him. Often they are trying to tell him why they seem bored, but he's not paying attention (which is a common symptom of “boring” people).
So I had him work on his listening for while and see what happened. He discovered some startling changes.
If you think you're boring people, maybe you’ll want to read
What Did You Say?: The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback Revised Second Edition (https://leanpub.com/Feedback)
p.s. BTW, his question itself seems like he's complaining, and it may be too complicated for others to understand. As an exercise in learning to be less boring, try rewriting it so it’s not complaining and far less complicated.
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